QUOTE(knowidea @ Nov 14 2006, 10:59 AM) [snapback]9282[/snapback]
Wonderland Avenue was one of those books I couldn't put down. I remember how sobering it was to read the paragraph at the end where he goes into everyone who had passed away (well before their time). I had the same feeling for him as I do for everyone who doesn't get a good chronological year run at this life. I often hear people justify a short life by "packing life in a short time" but I call bullshit. Every year is precious and can contain gems - usually wisdom.
"The wild regrets
And bloody sweats
Noone knew as well as I
That he who lives
More lives than one
More deaths than one
Shall die"...By Oscar Wilde, and one that Danny quoted to me more than once, since it was one he personally identified with. He never had any kind of conscious intention of "packing life all in" in a short time (even though that's how it looked at times), and with each phase of his life, he sure did learn a few things. Wisdom comes from experience, and with age comes the ability to use that wisdom. He was more or less at that point when the final death - the real one - took him away. He fought long and hard through every step of his illness and really believed he could beat it. For a very long time he'd say "I have cancer", and then one day, real tired, he said "cancer has me". That's when I think he knew....
Yes Jim, life is precious. I spent about 2 hours at Danny's grave last week while I was in LA, having a conversation with him (well ok.. I talked.. he mostly listened.. which was a real novel concept because it was usually pretty difficult to get a word in edgewise when talking with him :-) , and came away with the feeling that it _wasn't_ all for nothing, which is what I'd been really struggling with since his death. Sure his life was too damn short, and I'd probably give a limb to be able to see him again, or laugh with him again, or even laugh _at_ him again while he threw another Danny-tantrum or two :-). But I also know now that those he touched and whose lives he made better will always have that gift of love from him. Life just wouldn't have been the same without him in it, and for that - I thank him.