in my experience ive found the drunk/buzzed more difficult to deal with than the stoned/high
How drunk were they?
-No-one teaches the young how to drink properly, some seem to end up thinking that the ideal state is utterly pissed up - 'extreme drinking' as in 'extreme sports'- spectacular but that's it. IMHO.
-I have, ahem, over the years, conducted field trials on various (but not all! -I have no interest at all in some of them!) forms of intoxication, and humbly submit to you the findings of my research........
In the UK we have a genre of beer known as the 'session beer': typically a bitter or brown ale, not overly strong, about 3.3% alcohol. You can get to that pleasant gentle sociable buzz, yet can hold it there as long as you like, and sober up within a relatively short time without a terrible 'morning after'.
With stonger beers, it's harder to control the 'level of buzz', you drop out of the zone, drink another, then you overshoot the zone, and so on -not a mellow experience. IMHO.
-In any case, just like all the other intoxicants, booze interacts powerfully with mood: it magnifies, not changes, the mood. If I'm feeling tense, I look for some other pleasure or activity to indulge in until I feel different.